No One Understands Me: Self-Titled + Explaining through my Psychological Type function

 I realized.

The main problem of understanding with myself and others is only significant perception.
Every time I saw people laughing each other, working comfortably, eye on eye about things they talked about, or sharing things in their heads; doesn't mean I didn't be involved or they rejected me. Likewise, in my position, I might have a problem to understand that it hadn't needed me to discuss together within, or they might not think precisely that I could be able to join the conversation, or they just thought I wouldn't have any matters with their topics. But when they enjoyed it as well, I felt like "i wanna join also", like a little kid who wanted to join the game while they're started. 

My significant perception-built thousands of probabilities could be as the one purpose. But sometimes, the way I tried to look on is only my "parent" side knows it without anybody knows. By means, there are several points that I realize it:

* Every people know how to maintain connection and whom they are connected with. They have independent choices to select which one "fit" with them. In this case, I cannot desire all people around connected with me that it turned myself to be more "selfish". This might be the second idea to explain that area as the next.

* When turned selfishness behavior, I probably think that if all people love me, they will approach me and behave as if I am the only one shining for them. However, it couldn't be. I should notice when they didn't want to approach me, it didn't mean that others would hate or dislike me; same as going back to the first point explained. Alas, the reason people would choose others or somebody else better than me probably because of my mindset. If my mindset said that "I must be in love by around", God would give me a face of "jealousy", "grumpy", or might like a bad face that others would have a challenge how to perceive me and at the same time I would have a challenge how others accept my 'tough' face. Why? Because I was making my face struggled to be accepted, so that's why it makes others uncomfortable.

* As situation happened, my psychic inside grows into many hatred things about myself because "no one understands me". No one didn't like to get along with me because the way of my process reflects something which is not people's responsibilities to foster on me. Besides, when I think no one could be able to comprehend my head and feelings, it's really misunderstood also for others to interpret better what I actually need implying to my attitude. This is the reason why I choose my series notes named "No One Understands Me." It's like a mental blocking, when I limit my head walkthrough and others have a hard time to recognize me, instead they choose to stay away and find 'the other one' who can be understood. 

Three exactly points explained should be the main idea on how significant perception is a must. To build better relationship with others, especially for maintaining long-term ones, I realize that "mindfulness" and "acceptance" should be worked on my psyche. Remembering that most of my cognitive functions part; as Carl Jung explained how extroverted and introverted in psychological types order, should be outgrown more how to maintain healthy psychic with appropriated way. 

The key to my cognitive functions in my psychological types required to do so, according to the theory explained:

Extraverted Intuition (Ne) - conscious area, when me and all around notice this personality function. 

Extraverted Intuition (Ne) is all about connecting different details to come up with new ideas and possibilities. People with a dominant Ne are full of diverse and seemingly random ideas. They love exploring these ideas in real-time and are always looking for inspiration from their surroundings. They find interest in seemingly ordinary details, seeing beyond what's obvious to imagine abstract possibilities.

These individuals tend to stay optimistic and hopeful about the world because they see potential everywhere. However, a challenge for them is getting easily distracted by various possibilities, making it difficult to follow through on their plans and bring their ideas to life. When Ne is not used effectively, a person might end up being impulsive and unfocused, struggling to make progress in life.

On the positive side, healthy Extraverted Intuitives are great at spotting and initiating new trends for positive change and improvement.

Introverted Feeling (Fi) - Part of a Parent Behavior / Personality; only me knows this area, others not.

For personality based on auxiliary Fi, usually not only my type as ENFP, but also significantly to ESFP, and here are explanations:

1. Purpose of Fi: Fi (Introverted Feeling) is like a moral compass that helps balance the tendencies of Dominant Se and Ne, preventing them from being easily distracted or losing direction. It encourages reflection on personal development and moral integrity before taking actions.

2. Signs of Unhealthy Fi: If Fi is not well-managed, it can lead to inconsistency in applying moral values, self-centered behavior, low self-confidence, indecisiveness, neglect of self-care, or impatience in dealing with challenges.

3. Se-Fi (Sensing-Feeling): When using Fi healthily, adapt to changes by learning from the immediate moral and emotional impact of your actions. Prioritize empathetic and compassionate decision-making over solving problems right away, especially for those you consider under your care or responsibility.

4. Ne-Fi (Intuition-Feeling): Healthy Fi here means seeking fast change or improvement by reflecting on decisions with the biggest moral and emotional impact. Prioritize empathetic and compassionate choices over solving problems immediately, especially for those you believe you're responsible for.

Extraverted Thinking (Te) - Part of a Child Behavior / Personality; only others notice me, while I cannot realize.

Purpose of Te: Te (Extraverted Thinking) can be used by those with Dominant Se and Ne to pursue external success and superficial rewards, reinforcing their self-image as bold, daring, creative, optimistic, or flexible. However, resisting Te development can lead to indecisiveness, rebellion, self-absorption, irresponsibility, and avoidance of personal issues.

Healthy Te Traits:

- Responsibility

- Reliability

- Goal-oriented

- Focus

- Organization

- Efficiency

- Creative problem-solving

- Value motivation, merit, ambition, persistence, drive, and hard work

- Use skills to help others

- Pursue healthy self-improvement goals

Looping Tendencies: 

- Excessive stubbornness

- Burying personal problems behind rational actions

- Projecting inadequacies onto others

- Lack of moral integrity

- Poor understanding of others' suffering

- Repressing feelings or ignoring internal warnings

- Argumentative, domineering, arrogant, caustic, jealous, envious, or territorial

- Demanding agreement/approval or disregarding dissent

- Unfairly judging others as unsupportive, weak, oversensitive, incompetent, or inferior

- Aggressive but hasty actions to suppress insecurity, unhappiness, or low self-esteem

Se-Te Loop Dynamics:

- Impatient and driven to seek continuous positive feedback

- Chasing external success but suffering from low self-esteem and lack of meaningful direction due to neglecting personal moral values

Ne-Te Loop Dynamics:

- Impatient and driven to pursue every interesting idea for external success

- Suffering from low self-esteem and lack of progress due to neglecting personal moral values and developmental needs

Introverted Sensing (Si) - unconscious area, when me and all around have a hard time to identify this personality function. 

ENxP individuals, who are usually open to new ideas, can struggle when their Inferior Si (Introverted Sensing) is under stress. In such situations, they may become overly fussy or inflexible, obsessing over small details and feeling stuck without a clear sense of direction.

Characteristics of Si Grip:

1. Detail Obsession: Getting overly fixated on tiny details and stressing about perfection.

2. Difficulty Sorting Information: Struggling to make sense of information without the ability to organize details effectively.

3. Lost in Tunnel Vision: Experiencing a narrow focus, losing sight of possibilities, and feeling stuck in a rut.

Importance of Si:

Si is a need for personal reflection and building detailed knowledge. Ignoring Si can lead to neglecting personal priorities and well-being, hindering the patient development of good ideas.

Identifying Si Grip:

Ask yourself if, when overwhelmed, you:

- Lack motivation for change and desire personal reflection.

- Feel isolated and vulnerable, as if nobody understands you.

- Obsess over specific issues or past mistakes repeatedly.

- Struggle to learn from mistakes or repeat negative patterns.

- Become overly pedantic, nitpicky, fussy, irritable, or impatient.

- Feel pressed for time and not making progress fast enough.

- Worry excessively about health issues, fearing every ache or pain.

Advice: Identifying these impulses can help recognize when Si is in grip and address the need for personal reflection and detailed knowledge-building.

In this case, functioning through all four basis of psychological types in order could be helpful to understand my limitations and how I could reach the best healthy version suggested to outgrow my own personality. 

If you wanna know how your functions work, just put your comment what MBTI type you are and I will send you by Email for the result as it is. 

Thank you, world.